Some long-held traditions are fading, and older generations aren’t happy about it.
Tradition provides a sense of continuity, connecting generations through shared experiences and values. However, as times change, so do cultural norms, and many traditions that Boomers hold dear are slowly fading away. Gen X, often known for its independent and pragmatic nature, has quietly let go of certain customs that once defined previous generations.
While some see this as necessary progress, many Boomers view it as a loss of important cultural touchstones. Here are the traditions Gen X is leaving behind—and why Boomers aren’t pleased about it.
1. Sending thank-you notes is becoming obsolete
Boomers were raised to believe that sending a thank-you note was a crucial gesture of appreciation. Whether for a gift, a dinner invitation, or a job interview, a carefully penned note was considered the proper way to express gratitude. It has a strong psychological impact on both the receiver and sender, according to Harvard Health Publishing.
Gen X, however, has largely replaced this tradition with digital alternatives. A quick text, email, or social media message now serves the same purpose in a fraction of the time. While Boomers argue that this shift lacks a personal touch, Gen X sees it as a more efficient way to communicate in a fast-paced world.
2. Formal dress codes are fading away
Boomers grew up in an era where dressing up for church, dinner parties, or even air travel was the norm. Suits, dresses, and polished shoes were expected in many social settings. Dressing formally was seen as a sign of respect and self-discipline.
Gen X, however, has embraced a more relaxed approach to fashion. Business casual, athleisure, and even jeans in formerly formal settings have become acceptable, says writers at C-Suite Network. This shift has left Boomers lamenting the loss of decorum, while Gen Xers argue that comfort and practicality should take precedence over rigid dress codes.
3. Making phone calls is being replaced by texting
For Boomers, picking up the phone and having a real conversation was the gold standard of communication. Whether catching up with a friend or handling business matters, a phone call was seen as the most respectful and efficient way to connect.
Gen X, however, prefers using social media or emailing over making calls, according to AnswerNet. Many find phone conversations intrusive and unnecessary when quick messages can get the point across just as effectively. This shift frustrates Boomers, who see it as a breakdown in genuine human connection.
4. Owning fine china and formal dining sets is no longer a priority
Boomers often received formal china as wedding gifts and used it for special occasions. These delicate dish sets were a staple of holiday dinners and dinner parties, often passed down through generations.
Gen X has little interest in maintaining this tradition. Many view fine china as impractical, difficult to store, and rarely used. Instead, they opt for durable, everyday dishes and more casual dining experiences, much to the dismay of their Boomer parents.
5. Attending church regularly is no longer the norm
Boomers were often raised in households where Sunday church attendance was non-negotiable. Faith-based communities played a central role in social life, shaping moral values and cultural traditions.
Gen X, however, has drifted away from organized religion, with many identifying as spiritual but not religious. The decline in church attendance frustrates Boomers, who see it as a loss of community and moral structure.
6. Buying newspapers is becoming obsolete
For Boomers, reading the newspaper every morning was a cherished ritual. Whether catching up on world events or enjoying the comics section, print journalism was an essential part of daily life.
Gen X, however, prefers to consume news digitally. With instant access to articles, podcasts, and news apps, print newspapers have become increasingly irrelevant. Boomers lament this shift, seeing it as a decline in journalistic integrity and depth.
7. Retirement parties are disappearing
Boomers often celebrated retirement with grand office parties, speeches, and gold watches to honor years of service. It was a meaningful send-off, marking the transition into a well-earned period of rest.
Gen X, however, views retirement differently. Many plan to work beyond traditional retirement age, change careers later in life, or simply opt for quiet, private transitions. The lack of formal retirement celebrations disappoints Boomers, who see it as a loss of workplace camaraderie.
8. Hosting dinner parties is no longer a social staple
Boomers loved the tradition of hosting elaborate dinner parties, complete with multi-course meals, fancy table settings, and structured seating arrangements. These gatherings were a way to strengthen friendships and showcase hospitality.
Gen X prefers more casual socializing. Potlucks, backyard barbecues, and restaurant meet-ups have largely replaced formal dinner parties. Boomers often view this shift as a decline in etiquette and home entertaining skills.
9. Writing checks is becoming rare
For Boomers, writing checks was a fundamental part of managing finances. Whether paying rent, sending gifts, or covering bills, checks were a common payment method.
Gen X has largely abandoned this practice in favor of digital banking, credit cards, and apps like Venmo and PayPal. The idea of writing and mailing checks feels outdated, though Boomers argue it provided a tangible sense of financial control.
10. Staying at one job for decades is becoming rare
Boomers valued job stability, often staying with the same company for 30 or 40 years before retiring. Loyalty to an employer was a badge of honor, and long-term commitment was seen as the key to financial security.
Gen X embraces job-hopping, prioritizing career growth, flexibility, and better work-life balance. This shift frustrates Boomers, who see frequent job changes as a lack of dedication and a risky financial strategy.
11. Shopping in malls is fading
For Boomers, the shopping mall was a cultural hub where teenagers hung out, families shopped, and major holidays were celebrated. Malls were the centerpiece of suburban life.
Gen X has largely abandoned malls in favor of online shopping. E-commerce offers convenience, better prices, and more variety, making the traditional mall experience feel outdated. Boomers mourn the decline of malls, associating them with cherished memories of a bygone era.
12. Using physical maps is nearly extinct
Boomers grew up using paper maps and atlases to navigate road trips, highlighting routes and unfolding giant sheets of paper in the passenger seat.
Gen X has fully embraced GPS and smartphone navigation, eliminating the need for physical maps. While Boomers see this as a loss of essential navigation skills, Gen X enjoys the ease and accuracy of modern technology.
13. Casual dating is replacing traditional courtship
Boomers grew up in a time when dating often followed a structured path—courtship, steady dating, engagement, and then marriage. Meeting someone usually involved in-person introductions, family involvement, and formal dates with clear expectations.
Gen X has largely moved away from this model, embracing casual dating, cohabitation before marriage, and digital matchmaking. Dating apps and online connections have replaced many traditional dating customs. Boomers often lament this shift, believing it has led to less commitment and a decline in long-term relationship stability.